Many of the activities that I provided, as a play-responsive educator, were opportunities to build community and the skills and knowledge they needed to do that. We often tested how many dierent ways can we do something – getting across a hopscotch, jumping into puddles – as a way of seeing that there are many ways to do something, to learn to be inspired by others (children used to say “they are copying me” in a whiney voice, until we talked about this and I mentioned that others saw what they were doing and were so inspired that they wanted to test it out themselves… suddenly tones changed and a delighted “they are inspired by me” was being used). “Together Paintings” are something I love doing with children – an opportunity to paint together in a way that encourages them to put their social skills to the test – turn-taking, patience, self-regulation, empathy etc. I have done together paintings in very many dierent ways – but my very first, intentional “together painting” had just two colours, black and white, with one paintbrush in each pot and two children – over time this increased to three or four colours and up to eight children. If the children wanted to change colour they needed to ask a friend. They learned that they could say no if they wanted to, they learned that if they said no, then others had the right to do this too. They learned that if they did not like waiting to change colours maybe others didn’t either – so they learned to paint for as long as they wished while at the same time being mindful of others. These were not conflict free art explorations, they were not meant to be! They were opportunities to practice being kind, and being a part of a community without losing sight of personal needs and interests – mwe. And my role was to scaold when needed, not to make it too easy, but to ensure that no-one was going beyond their capacity, or was forced to be at the edge of their capacity for longer than necessary – this meant for some children I intervened more than for others, because they needed more from me in order to access their right to play and participate.